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Invitation examples

Real wording for different kinds of parties. Copy any of these, swap in your details, and send. All of them include the four essentials every invitation needs: what, when, where, and how to reply.

Casual gathering

The lowest-effort invite. Works for "I felt like having people over" parties, game nights, movie nights, drinks after work.

Short version

Hey! Coming over Saturday for a backyard hang? 6 PM, food on me, BYOB. Lmk by Friday.

A bit more

We're doing a low-key pizza & movie night Saturday, June 14, starting at 7. Picking the movie by group vote when you arrive. Bring whatever you want to drink. RSVP by Thursday so I know how much pizza to order.

Dinner party

Specific times, specific seats. Make it clear that you're planning around their attendance.

Standard

You're invited to dinner — Saturday, June 22, 7:00 PM at our place (123 Oak Street). Cocktails at 7, dinner around 8. Casual dress. Please RSVP by Saturday, June 15 — I'm planning the menu based on the headcount. Let me know about dietary restrictions and I'll work around them.

Themed

Pasta night, Friday, July 11, 7 PM. I'm making three pastas (one meat, one veg, one seafood) and we're tasting them as a group. Please bring a bottle of wine or non-alcoholic option to share. RSVP by Wednesday.

Adult birthday party

Friend-hosting a friend's birthday

Help me celebrate Sara's 30th — Saturday, June 22, at her place (123 Oak St). Cocktails & small bites from 7 to 11. Dress: whatever Sara would wear (casual cool). She's said no gifts but if you want to bring something, contribute to her trip-to-Portugal fund (link in the event page). RSVP by Saturday, June 15.

Hosting your own

I'm turning 35 and I want to spend the night with my favorite people. Drop by anytime between 6 and 11 on Saturday, July 12, at 123 Oak St. There will be food, drinks, and probably a wildly inappropriate playlist. RSVP by July 5 — and please no gifts, just show up.

Milestone birthday (40, 50, 60)

More formality is appropriate. The bigger the milestone, the more lead time you want — 6 to 8 weeks isn't unreasonable.

Formal

You're warmly invited to celebrate David's 50th birthday. Saturday, October 18, 6:30 PM cocktails, 7:30 dinner. The Grand Hall, 500 Main Street. Cocktail attire. In lieu of gifts, David requests donations to [cause]. Kindly RSVP by Saturday, September 27.

Surprise party

SHHH — this is a surprise party for Mei's 40th. Please don't mention it to her under any circumstances. Saturday, September 13, 6:00 PM at our place (123 Oak St). Arrive by 5:45 so we can hide before she gets here at 6. Wear pink (her favorite). RSVP to me directly by Saturday, September 6 — and again, do not tell Mei.

Kids' birthday party

Parents need details: start, end, age range, drop-off vs stay, allergies, what kids should wear or bring.

Drop-off party

Emma is turning 7 and wants to celebrate with friends at Pump It Up! Saturday, August 9, 2:00–4:00 PM. 1234 Park Ave (the location not our house). Drop-off welcome — parents are also welcome to stay. Snacks and cake provided. No gifts please. Please let us know about any food allergies. RSVP by Saturday, August 2.

At-home party

Noah is turning 5! Join us for a backyard celebration on Sunday, June 22, 3:00–5:00 PM. 123 Oak St. We'll have a bouncy castle, snacks, and (of course) cake. Wear clothes that can get messy. Siblings welcome. Parents please plan to stay. RSVP by Sunday, June 15.

Baby shower

Standard

Please join us in celebrating Sarah & Tom as they prepare to welcome baby boy Williams! Sunday, August 24, 1:00–4:00 PM. The Garden Room at 500 Main Street. Light lunch and mocktails will be served. Registry: babylist.com/sarahandtom. RSVP by Sunday, August 10 to host@example.com.

Casual / co-ed

Sara and Mike are having a baby! Come hang out, eat too much, and shower them with snacks (yes, snacks — they don't need more stuff yet). Saturday, September 6, 2 to 5 PM at our place. Bring a favorite snack or drink to add to their post-baby survival pantry. RSVP by Sunday, August 30.

Bridal shower / engagement party

Bridal shower

Join us in celebrating Mei before her wedding! Saturday, July 19, 12:00–3:00 PM. Brunch & mimosas at The Greenhouse, 200 Vine Street. Registry: zola.com/meiandalex. RSVP by Saturday, July 5.

Engagement party

David & Mei are engaged — come celebrate with them. Saturday, May 31, 6:00 PM cocktails. Our backyard (123 Oak St). Light food, drinks, dancing. Cocktail-casual. No gifts please, your presence is the present. RSVP by Saturday, May 24.

Holiday gathering

Thanksgiving / Friendsgiving

Friendsgiving! Saturday, November 22, 5 PM until late. We're roasting the turkey and making three sides. Please bring one dish to share — see the sign-up sheet on the event page so we don't end up with seven mashed potatoes. RSVP by Saturday, November 8 with your dish. Kids welcome.

Holiday cocktail party

You're invited to our annual holiday open house. Saturday, December 13, 4–8 PM. Drop by anytime. Mulled wine, hot cocoa, light bites, and the absolute best (subjective) Christmas playlist. Wear something festive if you want, jeans are fine. RSVP by Saturday, December 6.

Housewarming

Open house

We finally moved in! Come see the place. Sunday, June 8, 2 to 6 PM. 123 Oak St (the door's open, no need to ring). Drinks and snacks, give yourself a tour. No gifts please — but if you must, we're collecting bottles of wine for the new wine rack. RSVP by Sunday, June 1 so we have enough food.

Casual rules for any invitation

Across every example above, a few patterns hold:

What to leave out

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